Recently, I participated in the largest influencer campaign of my career. I was a nervous wreck—but you wouldn’t have known by looking at me.
On social media, I looked like I had it all together. Behind the scenes, I was dealing with tech problems and feeling overwhelmed. My imposter syndrome even kicked in, especially when I saw the other influencers chosen to participate. I caught myself thinking, “There’s no way I deserve to be here with them.”
Then, I reminded myself I did—and I went out and rocked. Why? Because I had confidence in myself. Here are three tips for building confidence in your career, even when you’re terrified.
1. Stop Making It About You
Usually, we feel scared about our skills when we’re putting too much attention on ourselves. For example, I was freaking out about engagement and numbers during this recent influencer campaign. What I had to remember was that it really wasn’t about me—it was about the people who needed to hear a positive message about money.
By shifting my focus to serving the audience, I got out of my own way and performed. A few weeks later, I got an email from my agent telling me I did an excellent job on the campaign.
2. Act Your Way Into Confidence
I often tell coaching clients that you can’t think your way into confidence. It’s not really something you intellectualize; rather, it’s something you feel in your body. The quickest way to feel confident is to act that way, even if your brain isn’t on board yet.
In other words, fake it until you make it. You will likely surprise yourself with just how much you end up accomplishing this way, which in turn, actually boosts your confidence.
3. Become Resilient
Most people mistakenly assume I was born confident. Of course, nothing could be further from the truth. In fact, I’m still scared a lot of the time. But I don’t let that stop me.
A big part of my confidence has come from being rejected and making mistakes. There was a time when 60 potential clients rejected me in one month!
The key is I never got attached to the rejection or the mistakes. I simply took the lessons with me so I could do better next time. My focus became my own personal growth and improvement, not whether I could land a deal. This allowed me to continue practicing and get really good at certain skills, like sales.
Eventually, I started hearing more “yes” than “no,” which helped boost my confidence. But it’s only a result of consistently putting myself out there and seeking to improve my skills despite being rejected.
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